The Sacrifice Of Starting A Family

Every morning we do our best to help mom catch up with sleep. She’s up a few times a night to nurse, I’m sure other breastfeeding moms know all about that. So once the sun comes up it’s dad mode. That’s Kai’s favorite time to play of course, so we roll around in bed, enjoy the morning rays and once he’s done with his morning feed we head out.

Back online after a long weekend away from the blog and wanted to share some thoughts about recent channel comments. Someone asked if I have any regrets about becoming a parent and what’s the biggest sacrifice? I never thought becoming a dad would change me much, though I knew I wasn’t always ready to be a parent. Sure there was a time when I’d have had to make a lot of changes to commit to family life.

Thing is since Kai has been a part of our life, ever since before he was born. I’ve not felt for a single moment that we’ve made a sacrifice. From my point of view there’s no regrets and I don’t want to sound like I’m boasting or getting ahead of myself. I just know every choice mom and I make puts him as our priority and it’s no sacrifice, it’s a blessing.

I guess the point is I feel very thankful to be a parent right now and although we’re only beginning this journey, I’m really excited about our future. Perhaps above all it’s less about timing and more about perspective. Sacrifice comes from a place of lack, appreciation comes from a place of love.

Unconditional love.


Beginning Breastfeeding

So it become quite clear that Kai is no a fan of sharing Mom time while nursing. I get it, we had a few goes and perhaps things may change in the future? Though for now it’s all about honoring his time and we both feel that that’s the most important thing for us to pay attention to. Respect to the little man.

Jamie’s breast feeding journey has been as challenging as rewarding. It’s been a lot of trial and error, watching closely to the signs and reading other mothers experiences. Every baby is unique of course, as well as every boob and there is no one way for all. We had a plan, adjusted to suit Kai’s needs and above all made sure our baby boy was happy, healthy and fed.

There’s a lot of stigma we feel and unnecessary pressure on Mother’s to meet other people’s expectations and recommendations. We feel that just adds to what can be an already stressful, tiring and unsure time. Especially for first time parents. Reading up on all the nutritional and nurturing benefits of the breast feeding bond definitely helped us to stay focused on why we were doing it.

It’s a huge adjustment and we get that not all parents have the time, support or belief in making it work. Be open to pumping if you have to and really if you ever feel like giving up, just remember that it all gets easier. In summary our advice for those mothers who are determined to breast feed is to stick with it.

We’re going to do more breastfeeding vlogs on other topics like what positions worked for Mom and Baby, supply solutions and how we work around his feeding schedule. Thanks for watching and following our journey.


Pedal Powered Parents!

So Kai and I took the rickshaw into Uncle Sam Laaw this morning to finally get his car seat fitted. We been waiting for little man to be sitting comfortably on his own which he has been for a while now.

Most of the time we wear Kai in either one of our baby slings, he loves to be carried and being right next to us. So being alone in the backseat is totally new to him and I think he likes it? He seems to enjoy being able to look around and see everything in a new way in his new ride. I thought perhaps he might get overstimulated or anxious sitting on his own for too long although he does fall asleep pretty easy once we’re going. We’ll see and only go on short trips for now, so far so good Mr Kai is now mobile.

The point of all this was to help Mom with her new years fitness goals as well as help us get out and about in the mornings. That way Mom can sleep in and get some extra rest from night time feeds. She did want to do a breast feeding video today and talk all about her experiences with getting started.. Kai however had other plans and we’ll have to give it another go tomorrow. Thanks for watching! 🙂